Article by Greg Koukl from August 2017 Tabletalk:
Who are you to Judge?
BY GREGORY KOUKL
Tabletalk August 2017, p. 27
(Matt. 7:1) is the one Bible verse even critics are convinced is divinely inspired, or so it seems based on how confidently they level it against Christians. The misuse of this verse is remarkably easy to counter, however, once you see what’s actually going on.
First, a qualifier. To judge is to find fault, you’re speeding, and there’s a police- and true fault—true moral guilt—is central to the Christian message. It’s the bad news that makes the good news good. If fault finding is our spirit, though, it’s the wrong one. If our judgment is mere condescension, then we will answer to Christ for that. We must never expect non-Christians to behave like Christians. This is not in their power to do. That should be clear.
However, I do not think condescension is usually the problem. Generally, something else is at play here. For one, taken at face value, the charge “Who are you to judge?” is based on a misunderstanding. If this is a request for our moral credentials, then we have none to offer. We do not author the rules that govern behavior. We are as much under these roles—and condemned by them—as any.
Rather, being criminals ourselves, we have been shown the path to pardon, and we merely pass that good news forward. God is good, and we are not. There is a justice and, apart from mercy, we shall feel it. Making that clear to others is kindness, not condescension.
If you were a passenger in a friend’s car and said, “In case you didn’t notice,
you’re speeding and there’s a policeman just down the street,” he’f probably think you were doing him a favor. And you would be. The illustration has its limits, of course, but I think you see the point.
There is something else, though, that I do not want you to miss. It’s the most important thing to know about this challenge. “Who are you to judge?” turns out not to be a question at all, but a statement in disguise: “No one is allowed to pass judgment of any kind.” Since morality is just a matter of personal opinion, all judgments are out of bounds. It’s the relativist’s ploy.
Of course, the relativist is always fooling himself on this score. Though he may have convinced himself for the moment, this is not what he really believes, since he is full of judgment when it suits him. In fact—and this you may have noticed—the complaint is self-defeating, since it is itself an implicit judgment of the Christian.
As it turns out, when critics impose any version of “judge not,” it is not an appeal that you be virtuous; it is a demand that they be left alone. They cite Jesus not out of conviction but out of convenience, not wanting to be subjects of any moral critique themselves.
So, how do we maneuver gracefully, yet shrewdly, when facing this challenge? I find it best to navigate situations like this by asking questions. In light of the observations above, here are a few that come to mind.
Your first step when facing just about any challenge is simply to ask, “What do you mean?” then wait for a response. Let your friend flesh out his concern a bit. Getting more information will give you more to work with. If it turns out your own judgment was motivated by contempt or disdain, then an apology might be in order.
You could also venture, “I’m confused about your question. Did you think I was imposing my private standard on you? If I gave that impression, I’m sorry. I meant only to warn about God’s standard, the same one I’m under.”
If he appears to be playing the relativism card, ask, “Are you saying it’s never right to point out a wrong? If so, then why are you doing it with me right now?” Then let him respond. Help him see that the relativism game can easily be played the other way around. If he says, “Who are you to judge?” ask, “Who are you to find fault?”
The point is not to be clever or glib but to show him he’s hiding from the real issue: his own guilt before God. Assure him that you’re not looking down on him. Rather, you’re merely passing on information that could rescue him by turning him away from his sin and guilt and to- ward the mercy of God.
GREGORY KOUKL is president of Stand to Reason (STR. org) and author of Tactics: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions and The Story of Reality: How the World Began, How It Ends, and Everything Important that Happens in Between.